Thursday, October 25, 2012

Lack of interest in sex (18+) - Psychology and Mental Health Forum

I apologize for the mature nature of this post, but I doubt the people over in the sexual health section will be able to give clear answers regarding sexuality and ASD.

I've been married for almost two years now, and naturally sex is something that occurs in marriage, however I don't have much interest in it. My lack of interest seems to be a logical reasoning type of thing, which is why I suspect it's linked to ASD, but I really don't know.

For me, I don't really feel any sense of "intimacy" or "bonding" with sex. Right now the only purpose for sex is to achieve orgasm, which according to most NTs is "the most amazing thing in the world," which, for me at least, very much isn't. Orgasm for me amounts to 1.5 seconds of "oh, that feels nice," and that's it. So from my point of view, why spend time, effort, and energy working towards 1.5 seconds of "oh, that feels nice" when I could be playing a video game or riding a roller coaster and experiencing long-term "that was freakin' awesome!".....? Other activities in life give me infinitely more pleasure than sex, and I don't know if that's ASD or if it's just me being me.

Also, on a slightly related note, is it common for Aspies to have an aversion to children? My wife will look at one of her friend's babies and say, "Aw isn't he cute," to which I reply, "Puppies are cute. Kittens are cute. This.....this is a noise and poop machine that will cost its parents $260,000 before it graduates high-school, and will cause unnecessary stress, drama, disappointment, and annoyances." I have to have lots of free time, spent alone, doing things that I enjoy doing. If I don't get that free time I get stressed. When I get stressed, it compounds until I snap and my cognitive functions go to hell and I can't focus on anything and I get extremely irritable. I also require 9-10 hours of solid sleep per night, which is already difficult thanks to the unyielding lunacy of society. On top of the fact that I don't want to pass on all the genetic health conditions that I have been suffering for the past 25 years, I really don't want a kid.

Source: http://www.psychforums.com/asperger-syndrome/topic99612.html

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